Four in every 100 people are Sociopaths – that’s 272 million people worldwide! There’s one living, working or socialising with you! If you recognise any of these tell-tale sociopathic traits below, you have probably been a victim…
Sociopaths and narcissists live to dominate others and are obsessed with winning – and at any cost, as long as it’s not to themselves. They have a natural, innate ability to excel anywhere ruthlessness is rewarded, in the same way that some people have a natural talent for music or sport. They are driven, duplicitous and vengeful when they get caught out.
Recent research has brought us a new and shocking understanding of what this serious emotional disability is – what causes it, how prevalent it is, and how studying it helps us to understand the connections between the twisted psyche and the rest of society.
Narcissists and sociopaths are a bigger part of your life than you imagine – you are likely to come into contact with them more frequently than you think.
So here are a few pointers. If anyone you know scores more than 50% on the list below – beware!
The Charm Offensive
The sociopath’s most deadly weapon is the charm offensive – but beware… it’s superficial charm and lacks an atom of sincerity. Sociopaths are accomplished actors. Smooth, engaging, charming, flattering, a sociopath will never be tongue tied or embarrassed. They are fond of quoting from movies or books – this is because despite their manipulative skills, they never have an original thought of their own. As charming as they are, they also have a need to be respected, even adored, by others. Some stoop to hints of they way they were [supposedly] abused at the hands of others, spinning dreadful tales of their own imaginary traumatic experiences. This is guaranteed to elicit sympathy and therefore assistance from the uninitiated.
Inflated sense of self-worth
An over-inflated sense of self worth. Sociopaths believe they are superior human beings, on a higher plan than others, often portraying themselves as having some deep intelligence, pretending to possess some great insight others lack. Some of them even pretend to have qualifications – a phoney PhD is a common one – bought from a dodgy online American pseudo-university or college. Nonetheless, they feign modesty, admitting to being ‘a bit of a nerd (or geek) really’ or appear to sublimate themselves to [pretended] spirituality. They have cottoned on to the fact that self-effacement is a powerful tool.
Prone to boredom
Prone to boredom. They have a need to be constantly stimulated, yet they rarely engage in long-term hobbies or pastimes. They have an inability to hold down long term relationships, referring to their latest conquests as ‘Brazilian Beauties’ or the like. This is because, despite their apparent charm, they are shallow human beings with nothing to add to the collective knowledge of humanity.
Pathological liars. Sociopaths are deceptive and dishonest and they can lie to your face with heartfelt sincerity – and to prove their point, they will win your confidence by displaying a faux genuine interest in you; they will laugh at all your jokes and appear to feel your pain. They will agree with everything you say.
Master manipulators. They will say and do anything to deceive and cheat others. This is their one true hobby and their skill has been honed to perfection, the result of years of practice. They are adept in enlisting the sympathy of others, to whom they will be the very embodiment of goodness itself. Often they will play the part of the victim to gain the sympathy of people they wish to recruit to their particular cause. They are incredibly talented when it comes to garnering support from others; playing the victim is a common ruse de guerre.
Lack of remorse
Lack of remorse. Sociopaths have no sense of the suffering of their victims. On the contrary, they enjoy the suffering of their victims. To them, this sort of domination is better than sex. Often, it’s payback for all the times they were frustrated or snubbed in childhood. Their victim is often a substitute for the one who abused them when they were children.
Limited range of feelings
Limited range of feelings. Don’t expect them to express any emotion other than happiness or sadness. There is nothing in between. Everyone they meet is either ‘wonderfilled’ or ‘low class’ unless of course they can be used. Yes, Sociopaths use people and throw them away like Kleenex.
Callousness. Sociopaths are cold and contemptuous of others. This is an emotion (or lack of emotion) they are skilled at concealing; the pretence of the caring humanist butter-wouldn’t-melt persona is kept up at all times – even to the person they are busy destroying – and that’s part of the fun!
Parasitic lifestyle. Sociopaths are often financially dependent on others. They trade off time and ‘caring’ for financial security, and they will very soon know more about your finances than you do yourself.
Unable to regulate behaviour
Can’t control their behaviour. When challenged, sociopaths get angry. This is the only real emotion they are capable of experiencing. Sometimes they get their lawyers to bury you under an avalanche of litigation. Or they will refuse to let you see your children – this is a common lever and again, something that gives them huge, orgasmic pleasure. In cases where they have been found out, you run the very great risk of becoming their new hobby, and they will involve themselves in that bordering on obsession.
Be warned! Better still, be prepared.
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